Mom Talk, Side Note

So, I Had a Baby… and This is What It’s Done to Me

Last time I disappeared from the blog, I had this exciting news to share. Well, what do ya know… part two of that saga completed itself just a mere seven weeks ago. I had the baby! Six weeks early and by emergency c-section. Four and a half speedy hours of unexpected labor, uncontrollable pushing in the car and fully dilated at the hospital with a breech baby – it’s a story I’ll be telling for the rest of my life.

But he’s healthy (yes, he is a precious baby boy we named Gabriel) and I’m healthy and we’re both doing generally very well.


It’s hard to put into words the paradigm shift that having a baby creates in your life. I’ll spare you the details and leave it at this – I’m learning lots. Like how to type up a blog post one-handed while cradling a fussy baby in the other arm, for example. The answer? Slowly and patiently.

Slowly and patiently has actually done wonders for my sense of perspective. In a less than gentle manner, it has forced me to confront the real priorities of my life. Sure, I don’t get a million things done in a day like I used to (because I totally used to). And yes, things take much longer than they did before. As a result, my list of priorities has been reduced to the unglamorous essentials.

At first, there was one priority. Keep this baby alive. Then, slowly it became keep this baby alive and make coffee. Important. Eventually laundry and dishes were added to the list along with a handful of other household tasks and self-care habits. Now, we’re grocery shopping, getting our hair done (ok, his is still pretty low maintenance at this point) and writing blog posts!

Pre-baby I liked to talk about slowing down and simplifying. Post-baby, it’s not even a choice. Life has forced it on me. And even though I’ve had a hard time coming to terms with our new pace (it’s not the zen-like slowing down that you might be imagining), eventually my obsessed with “productivity” self has learned to embrace it.


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I know this won’t last forever. Before long, I’ll get back to work and the hurried multi-tasking will begin again. But my hope is that I can preserve at least a sense of this time internally.  It’s taken a good solid seven weeks to admit it (and, if I’m being honest, I’m still struggling) but slowly and patiently has turned out to be a really great thing. I’m going to do my best to keep it that way.


Style Stories to come as our new pace allows.


This story by Hilary Walker
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  • Reply Marion April 28, 2015 at 12:27 pm

    I think that the challenges experienced after the birth of a child is divinely appointed so that Mom and child can continue the bonding that was established within the womb. He is a precious little boy. The day will come when you will yearn for slow and consistent time together again.

  • Reply Jessie April 28, 2015 at 3:55 pm

    I am SO happy that Gabriel has safely arrived in your arms, and this post was so eloquently (honestly) written that I’m moved to tears! Wish I could give you both a huge hug in person, and already looking forward to more posts to come. 🙂 XOXO

    • Reply Hilary April 28, 2015 at 4:19 pm

      Thank you so much, Jessie! After I hit publish I thought to myself, “you could have written that better.” I guess we’re always second guessing ourselves. Thank you for the encouraging words!

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