Side Note

5 Things I’m Afraid to Show You

Recently heightened stress levels are shouting one message loud and clear in my direction. “Ease up, sister!” With holiday shopping, travel planning, baby prepping and house unpacking, I think I’m quickly approaching the perfect storm of high personal expectation and low achievement. Is it any wonder? It doesn’t matter how fast or how much I hustle my tail to get things done, I never seem to get it all done. Meanwhile, Pinterest looms in the background of my computer screen and mind. Prompted by my friend Jess Lively’s “Things I’m Afraid to Tell You“, I’ve decided to make a bold move in the direction of authenticity and show you how it really is at the Walker household, unstyled and unedited. Too often I find myself wobbling between the frustrating extremes of dreamy aspiration and downtrodden disappointment. Maybe you wrestle with something similar. Don’t fret, love! I’ve already done enough fretting for the both of us. Instead, take some solace in my currently disheveled home. Cut yourself some slack and I will too. Don’t give up, of course! Just perhaps ease up. All of us, even the most practically-perfect-in-every-way sort, have days (and corners) like these.


  • TV Tray Living Room – About 90% of the time there is at least one TV tray sitting in front of our sofa. Home decor fail. Sometimes used as a work station, many times for dinner. It’s probably the least glamorous thing we do (besides pulling clothes from the dirty laundry hamper on a desperate occasion).


  •  Dirty Dish Overflow – Another incredibly common sight in our house. You’d think with a dishwasher that we’d be more on top of it. Truth is, we just aren’t. I blame long days and, yes, the plague of laziness.


  •  Unpacked BoxesI really thought this unpacking/redecorating thing was going to happen quickly. But who was I kidding! Reality always moves at a slower pace. Completion date – TBD.


  •  Unfinished ProjectsRead above. One more thing on the ever-growing to do list. And yet the hours in the day remain the same.

DSC_6357 So, there it is. No more pretending that I have or will have it all figured out and neatly tidied up. Slack officially cut for us both! Now when you’re feeling overwhelmed by your own or other’s expectations of how much, how cute, how perfect things should be… flip back to this post. There’s plenty of room for a little gracious slack-cutting on the flip side of those admirably high expectations. Merry Christmas-making, friends!

This story by Hilary Walker
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  • Reply Cindy December 17, 2014 at 8:08 am

    Thank you thank you for this beautiful honesty! May we all relax, laugh a lot, breathe easy and enjoy the journey – the extraordinary ordinary Gift of real Life.

  • Reply Sarah Greenman December 17, 2014 at 11:39 am

    Oh girl, I hear ya. But the mess you’ve made is a lovely one… and one that has a purpose. I think a purposeful mess is one that should be admired. And you’re growing a human all the while… so “ease up” is good advice. Love to you and a very Merry Christmas. P.S. The living room wall color with the sofa and blue rug are AWESOME!

  • Reply Marion January 29, 2015 at 9:20 am

    This confirms it… are my daughter!

    • Reply Hilary January 29, 2015 at 9:21 am

      Oh really? In what way?

  • Reply Fariha Nasir March 3, 2015 at 3:04 pm

    Okay, so I have all 5 of those above mentioned things in my house. All. Five.

    Got supplies for a project a year ago, they’re still sitting in a box somewhere.. *shudder*

    • Reply Hilary March 3, 2015 at 3:06 pm

      Haha!! Nice, Fariha. It’s ongoing, isn’t it? At least we can know that we’re all dealing with similar things.

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