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Perfectly Imperfect; Thoughts On What I Don’t Want To Do

Since the very inception of this blog (back in the day), I’ve thought long and hard about what I want my content to represent. What it will contribute… how it will be different. That has gotten me so far. But now I’m starting to think just a bit about what I don’t want it to be. Let me explain.

It’s become increasingly obvious to me through social platforms and various niche blogs that we spend far too much time coveting the riches and blessings of other seemingly perfect people online. You know what I’m referring to… sunset moments, extraordinary accomplishments, pristine homes with gorgeously stocked closets, skinny-minnies with brilliant white teeth, seriously serious model looks, and budgets that go on for days. Of course, never a hair or object out of place. Their computers don’t seem to have cords and their sinks never appear to have dishes. It’s “perfect”… or is it?

When I look at the aforementioned “perfectness”, I fully realize that it’s presented with good intentions. To share happy moments, proud achievements, and yes, gorgeous style on gorgeous people in gorgeous homes. Not the worst idea. But perhaps it’s not done with the concern for authenticity, transparency, and the inevitable pitfalls of envy that we’re all so prone to these days. The last thing I want to do with this blog is cause someone to be dissatisfied with their own life! I know. That may still happen. I’m afraid it’s an inevitable bi-product of creating and consuming content about other people and decorative things. We’re so comparative, us human beings. As it turns out, though, not even the most organized, accomplished, stylish, or designer clad among us are perfect. We all have our stuff.

 

So, back to what I do want to do. Considering some imperfectness in my own life that I’ve been recently faced with, I thought the points below were worth articulating.

 

With this blog…

I do want to share inspiring stories of men and women creating thoughtful work, interesting homes, and enriching lifestyles.

I do want to offer motivating insights and advice from these stories for the purpose of elevating, not intimidating.

I do want to show a bit of the imperfectness of it all. And will be incorporating more and more “reality” as we go.

I do want to help others see the personal style journey as an adventure. Real, honest, beautiful, diverse, imperfect.

 

Besides, when it’s all said and done, it’s all more interesting when you can see the smudges with the polish, don’t you think?

 

 

 

Contemplating imperfectness, this story…

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9 Comments

  • Reply Eric September 17, 2013 at 8:09 am

    Loving antiques, I know that perfection can be the enemy. Perfection lacks warmth and authenticity. The word authenticity can come off as pretentious, but its really about the genuine and can come at any price. Its also something we can strive for in our own selves.

    Reading this reminded me of the book Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil where new money vs old money is being discussed. Someone walks into I think Jim Williams house and a debate ensues about whether he is old money or new money. A chair with worn fabric gives it away, old money (but he was new money- just an old soul with new money).

    It’s not about the money, but the fact that imperfect things can be really great, and even much preferred to perfect ones.

    • Reply Hilary September 17, 2013 at 8:12 am

      I love these thoughts, Eric!! You bring up imperfectness in material things and how that can be a desirable thing and I think that’s perfect. Thanks for sharing!

  • Reply Molly September 17, 2013 at 8:23 am

    Morning Hilary!
    I love this post and your goals for this place! You’re doing amazing 🙂

  • Reply Sarah Greenman September 17, 2013 at 8:26 am

    Here here!

  • Reply Marion September 17, 2013 at 8:26 am

    The scars we carry as well as the scars on our belongings only indicate that we are living an authentic life. We all want to look and appear good both externally and internally, and no one wants to be seen when we are not put together, polished and putting our best face forward…..but the reality of it all is that the scarring sometimes indicates the authenticity and reality of life in this world, and as the scars are healed, they portray refinement and a deeper beauty which is achieved from experience, recovery and healing.

    • Reply Hilary September 17, 2013 at 8:48 am

      So true! And I love the perspective that our healed imperfections show a refinement and beauty. Lovely thought.

  • Reply Cindy September 17, 2013 at 1:38 pm

    i love this philosophy Hil!! And you have done this well. You show real people – not pretend people. They are not overly groomed models positioned to show a “perfect world”. They are true folks in their own sacred spaces. i love what you do – and what you don’t do.

    I look forward to every post and am encouraged and more freed up to be ME in my own space with each one. That doesn’t happen with slick, plastic-looking photos and marketing…they just make me feel that i can’t live up to it because it’s too perfect – and creepily unreal and frankly – boring.

    Keep doing what you’re doing Sister – Bravo!!

    • Reply Hilary September 17, 2013 at 11:13 pm

      Thank you so much for this, Cindy! When I feel like I’m getting a little lost in my mission, I’m going to come back to your comment. This is exactly the sort of thing I wish so much to elicit from my work.

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